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Friday, December 19, 2014

"Tis the Season of Grieving"

With the holiday season here upon us, amongst all the celebrating and warm wishes, we must remember that not everyone is filled with holiday cheer and are having a holly jolly good time.

By this I don’t mean that we have a Scrooge on our hands, who instead of wishing everyone a happy holiday is going around shouting bah humbug while wearing an unpleasant scowl across their face.

But rather people who are hurting inside and can’t bring themselves to open up about it out of fear of ridicule and/or judgment by their peers.

This world makes people feel bad about expressing their feelings, that something is wrong with them if they are not of the same mindset as the masses, and that unfortunately is the reason why most avoid being transparent.

And as a result of this they keep their true identify hidden, and I don’t mean one of superpowers and superior crime fighting abilities, but more so one of overwhelming sorrow and soul shattering pain, their own personal mental war.

No matter who is around them and/or what gift they unwrap the anguish that burns inside of them will not simmer, if anything it burns hotter and more out of control during this time of year.

For most it is hard to believe that during times of such happiness that someone could be suffering so, but this is reality and a truly dangerous one at that.

They are a ticking time bomb waiting to go off, and without someone to cut the correct wire they will someday explode, leaving nothing more than a memory and a trail of broken hearts.

So act now, show the people in your life how much they mean to you while they are still here to appreciate it; don’t wait until they are six feet under and you are left talking to a tombstone.


Be aware of the body language, pay attention to the subtle clues and most importantly don't be afraid to get involved and if necessary help them find professional help.

Sometimes a shoulder to lean on and an open ear could do wonders for someone’s mental state, it could be the best gift they received all year, and in some cases even a lifesaving one.

Also these individuals can be anyone from anonymous stranger, someone you may see on a regular basis but not give much thought to, or even a friend or family member, you just never know.

This problem is not exclusive to one group or another, so don’t believe that this couldn’t happen to you or your friends/family, because doing so would be completely foolish and possibly have devastating consequences.

Our brothers and sisters are hurting, and as we worry about what gifts to buy each other and who’s bringing what to the family dinner, they are searching for a reason to continue on.


We don't need to be visited by three spirits to know something has to change, be like the Grinch and let your heart grow three sizes this holiday season, trust me the world will be a better place because of it.

MJM

18 comments:

  1. I couldn't have said it better myself. Well, I did say it, but not better :D

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    1. I learned everything I know from watching you my friend, you are my idol.

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  2. Fantastic MJM...and very timely! Great piece my dear friend - you know Sister Steph has mad love for you and your work! lol

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    1. Thank you very much my friend, I really appreciate that.

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  3. Amazing bro.

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  4. Christmas is a HUGE trigger time for me, mental health-wise. Thank you for writing this!

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    1. It's not easy my friend, there could be many triggers, and that's why we should look out for each other. Much love and have a wonderful day.

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    1. Thank you very much my friend, I really appreciate that.

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  6. Well said, Mike - a timely reminder that the festive season is often the most difficult time of the year for the lonely and those suffering emotional pain. Nevertheless, I wish you an enjoyable Christmas.

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    1. Thanks for the love my friend, on both accounts. I wish you a great Christmas.

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  7. Really poignant. I read something today which read "More flowers are bought for the dead than the living because regret is stronger than gratitude"

    A powerful reminder to be engaged and grateful to the living.

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    1. I never heard that before, but I must say it is very deep and unfortunately very true.

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  8. A timely message Michael, and one I know to be true from experience.

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    1. You're a blessing to this world of ours my friend, and don't you forget that.

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