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Monday, June 16, 2014

“Aborting the Hate”

Whether or not abortion is a sin, is between God and the person having the abortion, not any other person and/or book, God inspired or otherwise.

We all have our opinions on the matter, and like spoiled kids who argue over which flavor ice cream to have, we aren’t going to budge and/or see the other’s point of view.

With that said, I personally don’t believe that abortion is an acceptable form of birth control, considering that there are many things a woman, and a man, could do to avoid getting pregnant.

Now that doesn’t mean that I believe every person who has an abortion is using it as such, there are many reasons why someone would feel lead to make that decision, and unless we walked a mile in their shoes, we have no right to assume what their reasons are and/or to pass judgment on them for doing so.

Jesus said, “Love your neighbor as yourself” and in this particular situation these words have fallen on deaf ears, they have been overlooked and ignored many times over.

None of us would want to be judged and/or condemned when we had a difficult decision like this to make, but still we take it upon ourselves to treat others like trash when they are faced with a decision such as this, which is totally unloving and hurtful to say the least.

It saddens me to see people fight so vigorously for the unborn, but then when they are born as a result of their actions, they want nothing more to do with them, and they could care less what the ultimate outcome would be of their life and overall wellbeing.

They curse, they condemn and they make the women who have abortions, or even just considering one, feel like complete garbage, like they belong with the likes of the most heinous murderers this world has ever seen.

You never see people offering solutions, only judgment, which is very unfortunate.

Why don’t these antiabortion people offer to pay for a psychiatrist for the mother who had to carry and deliver a child who may have come to be by some less than desirable means and/or possibly born into an unhealthy environment, but decided to keep the child based on their influence?


Why don’t these same people offer to pay for diapers, formula and other related expense that come with having a child, they say you’re going to hell for having an abortion, but you’ll never see them go to the bank with the purpose of helping out with the expenses of having a child?

The women, who we men are supposed to love, cherish and protect, are tossed aside as if they are nothing more than the cardboard packaging that hold the Cracker Jacks, the box is worthless, we only want the prize inside.

Before damning another to the depths of hell for their actions, or making them feel like less than an equal, take a step back and look upon them with compassion, and unclench your fist of rage and offer an understanding hand.

We men, whether we like it or not, have no rights and/or say-so over a woman’s body, they are free to do as they feel fit, just as we are.

The sooner we realize this, and allow others to live their lives as they so desire, they sooner we can move forward and work to make this planet a better place for all of us involved.

Now of course in an ideal world, this decision would be discussed by both parties involved and an outcome would be reached that benefits all interested parties, but unfortunately that is not always the case and sometimes us men are left out of the decision altogether.

MJM

17 comments:

  1. I feel strongly that the guy involved should have a say. He was 50% involved in the creation, he should at least get a chance (in a regular relationship - not one involving rape, etc) to voice his opinion to the woman and weigh in on the decision to end the pregnancy. Very interesting topic for you to approach, MJ.

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    1. Whereas I do agree with you, sometimes unfortunately things don't always work out like that, the man could be completely left out of the decision, of course all depending on the woman herself.

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  2. You know, you don't often see this topic approached with common sense, tolerance and love. Your post on abortion contains no harsh judgements, no condemnation, no promises of unending despair--I think you may have just outed yourself as an extreme Christian. Watch your back at the next convention ;) Loved the post.

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    1. I know some people will take offense to how I presented my feelings towards this issue, but you know what, those are the people that need to open their hearts and close their mouths, because all this hate isn't solving anything.

      Thanks for the love girl, I'm glad you enjoyed it.

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  3. You make a great point. Hey protestors, are you willing to adopt all the children? Take them on as foster children until they ARE adopted? And I love your idea about counseling for the mother. I always assume the mothers have good reasons to make that choice, and whatever the reason, they could definitely use some help and words of wisdom during this time.

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    1. Thank you for reading my friend, and for the support, I really appreciate it.

      Believe it or not, this issue is not as black and white as people like to claim it is, so to assume otherwise would be utterly foolish and totally ignorant.

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  4. Nicely done! You make many great points here that I strongly feel as well. It's easy to judge other people when the people judging don't have the life-long responsibility.

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    1. Very well said my friend, I couldn't have said it any better.

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  5. What I find rather interesting is that the majority of anti-abortion individuals that I encounter are pro death penalty. Hence, negating the entire right to life stance...In retrospect, both of these choices are highly condemning. Condemning a woman to have a child she cannot care for or condemning her for not doing so...condemning a viable living human to death for a crime.

    It's mind boggling that Texas is requiring women to see an ultrasound of their fetus prior to having an abortion. One last ploy to make her change her mind out of guilt and fear of God.

    As usual, a well thought out piece MJM.

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    1. I do agree with you my friend, it is rather disturbing to know that these so-called "loving" anti-abortion people fight for the unborn, but once born, they could care less for them and the mothers who had them.

      Texas is just crazy, no nice way to put it.

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  6. The system fails women that choose to bear and keep their children, particularly those who are doing it on their own and are typically young - too young to be mothers. The burden to care for the woman and her child often falls to grandparents...statistics show that like half of kids are partially if not wholly raised by grandparents.

    My query to you is this: What happens when the decision on continuing a pregnancy or not is 50/50 and the parties disagree? What about the need for costly DNA testing to even determine in the fetal stage that the fetus in question is that man's child?

    Is this going to fuel the already messed up and lengthy legal system...people spending money that is going to be needed to support such said child which may or may not result in a live birth?

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  7. Very well said my friend, and so very true, There are many complications and concerns a couple has to burden when it comes to abortion, and the last thing they need is they government and/or some fanatical anti-abortion group making things more difficult for them.

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  9. I agree with this post and might have even said it myself. I once said this to a woman on a forum. I was trying to speak with compassion and explain that we need to look for more solutions and look at people who are struggling with these kind of decisions with more compassion and sensitivity. I was suddenly attacked and told I sounded like a "liberal". I was very hurt by the assumption, the labeling and the the attack.

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    1. Thanks for the love my friend, coming from you that means a lot.

      Unfortunately there are many close-minded people out there, who don't want to hear anything that conflicts with what they believe is gospel, and if you ask me it is very sad.

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  10. Michael this is an amazing and extremely important issue,this is literally the first time in my 50 some odd year's have i read such an intelligent and so abundant humanity for only if we all thought and wrote such loving ,caring,and unbiased comments what a wonderful world would we live in ,gratefully apprechiated sincerely you're s margaret Frazier /aunt peg

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    1. Thank you very much, I greatly appreciate that.

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